With you, even sleeping on thrones is also fun; without you, the cozy bed is also not comfortable. With you, there are challenges, goals, successes and victories; without you this life is directionless and purposeless.
With you, life is fun and happy; without you, my life is nothing.
Thanks for coming into my life and loving me so much. I love you".
Introduction
LOVE is one of the widely used yet misunderstood and wrongly interpreted human emotion. We, human-beings can fall in love with almost anything and everything that exists in this world. The emotion of love can exist between any two objects and / or bodies. There can be love between parent and child; a male and a female; two brothers; with country and religion; with profession; with animals; with nature; etc and etc.
Love means different things to different people as they grow in age and maturity. Love can be interpreted as any or all of the following:
1. To care
2. To respect
3. To admire
4. To understand
5. To be faithful
6. To adjust and compromise
7. To trust
8. To romance
9. To celebrate
10. To get physical (Hug, Kiss and Sex)
11. To have kids
12. To face challenges
13. To grow together
14. To live together so on and so forth
In this article, we are making an attempt to understand the meaning of love that exists between a male and a female (Adam and Eve) in its totality and how does that interpretation changes over the period of time and with age. We are putting more emphasis on the meaning of love and romance at old age and its importance.
Growing in love
I am not sure at what age the love between a male and a female begins to grow and when they begin to get attracted towards each other but I think the love begin due to the basic physical and biological difference between the two genders. Since the time when we were kids, we have been told by our elders and family members that boys and girls are different and hence they should be treated differently. Hence kids being so curious (as they always are), they begin to find and explore that difference between a boy and a girl. I think those are the first few symptoms of getting attracted and falling in love.
The most important thing in love is to communicate and being able to interact with people of opposite gender without any hesitation but I know many people are not good in this. Remember that most beautiful girl of your class or the most cute and sweet boy of your class that you always wanted to talk to but could never; because you were not sure what to talk and how to begin. At that age, this is love. And if you are able to talk to that girl or that boy, your classmates will begin to say, "Hey, you love her" or "Wow, see your friend is coming". Then, that boy or that girl becomes the reason for you to go to school, attend class and do well in your exams. You always try to be in the limelight, so that you get noticed by that particular person.
As we move towards the late teen years of our life then through our interactions and school curriculum, we get to know and learn about basic differences between a male and a female body. It is a human nature that we don't accept new things without having a reason to do so. For human being to believe in things they must be able to see, touch and feel. Hence, people at this age begin to adventure and for them; love is to be able to see the body beneath those clothes. People at this age get more tempted to see the porn sites and magazines. They become more curious. Hence, at this age, love is to see the nudity. Not only to see nudity but also to touch and feel. Remember that first touch on your body; that first hug and kiss. At that age, this is the love.
But, do all girls look the same beneath their clothes or is there a difference? Are all guys the same? As we move from teens to early twenties, thoughts like this passes through our mind. At this age, people tend to flirt. Every quarter of the year, you can see them with different girl or boy. At this age, sex or the physical relations with different people become more important. It is not a need but curiosity.
Things move on and now after seeing and experiencing everything, you begin to notice other qualities in the person, such as, intelligence, family background, future prospects, ability to adjust and accommodate and understand and etc. You begin to see long term. You want to get settled down in your life. Now, you look for trust and faithfulness in your relation. You are also willing to adjust and compromise on a few things. You begin to look for someone with whom you can spend the rest of your life. Hence, you decide to get married; at times with a person that you have selected and sometimes with a person selected by your parents and family. So, you widen your scope of love and begin to look for most or all of the qualities in a person that I have listed above. Unfortunately, it is very difficult to find someone with all these qualities and over that life also throws some new challenges at us and has some surprises in store for us. To counter this, most of us prepare our list of priorities and traits that our life partner must have. Hence at this age, love is to adjust compromise and understand, so as to face the challenges of life and grow.
As we move from early twenty to our thirty, the basic needs of our life and our aspirations, such as career, growth, recognition, fame, comforts, wealth accumulation, bringing-up kids, society, family etc take precedence over love and romance. Love between the two is still there but not as much as it should be. They work, so that they can give better life to their kids and to secure comfortable old age for themselves. To ensure this, they do not even hesitate to work during odd hours and moving to different cities and countries. They literally need to snatch a few moments of care and romance for each other. It is important that you understand your partner, trust your partner, celebrate every moment that you get and communicate with each other as often as possible. At that age, this is love.
...and life moves on and we continue to grow. We continue to run, day after day and years after years and in the process, though we continue to live together and stay in the relation but we hardly find any time for each other. We spend our time in our work, with our kids and in fulfilling our social responsibilities and in the process we hurt the one that we love most. We find it difficult to spare few moments for the one whom we love so much.
In this competitive world, we want to be ahead of others in our career and profession. In doing so, we don't take care of ourselves and carry few diseases with us. And in the process of completing our responsibilities towards our kids, family, society and country, we become old, weak and fragile. By the time we understand all these things, we have already knocked the door of our old age by completing our 60 years of existence. As we walk towards the sunset of our life, we realize that we are actually running short of time and we do not have enough time to love and romance the person who has been walking silently with us, in this journey of life.
Love at 60 - Moving together towards the sunset of our life
...and when we reach 60, we feel shy to romance the love of our life. We feel scared. We carry unknown fears of society. We begin to think what others will say and think about us. But basically, love and romance at 60 is a different experience. Some couples spend this time by discussing about their past and grown-up kids, grand children and etc and some are slightly different and they experience a new life. They are as creative and romantic as ever. Experience of this emotion at that age will not be very different from what we are discussing here. I think, irrespective of the country they live in and language that they speak, all of them will experience the similar flow of emotion.
One day, I was sitting and thinking if there will still be enough attraction, love and romance between us when I will be 65 and you will be 62?
By that time, I will be quite old and already a house of diseases. Wearing thick glasses and holding a walking stick. There will not be many hairs on the head and if any, they all would have turned grey. No teeth in the mouth. Coughing throughout the night and not letting you sleep. I wonder if you will still be able to love and romance this old person. I know that I will be able to love you and romance with you in a way no one else can.
When we will reach that age and already retired, we will move to a different place. Not in a very big house but a small one, just enough for two of us. At that age, I do not want to stay away from you. Wherever we need to go, we will travel together and live together and not separately. Together, we will go for a walk in the morning and also in the evening. We will be holding hands and walking in a park or on a beach. You will not feel shy, right? Then we will have breakfast. After breakfast you must take your medicine. We will spend our afternoons and nights in our bedroom, just like the way we did on our honeymoon, right? In the evening, I will make tea for you, without sugar. Lunch and dinner we will take together and I will feed you by my hand. Dinner, we will always have candle-light.
Whenever, you will get sick, I will take care of you. In the middle of the night, if you will ask for water and as many times, I will get it for you. I will make sure that you take your blanket. You can also ask me to switch on and off the air-conditioner and as many times. Every year, we will go for honeymoon and every time to a different place.
I know that you like flowers, especially roses, so every morning I will get you fresh flowers. I will also be giving you some surprise gifts, jewelry, sexy dresses and etc. You will wear, right?
I will do these things and many more things for you, not only today or tomorrow but throughout the rest of my life. The romance between us will never die. I will never let the spark of our love, go off.
For the "Special" one out there
On this Valentine Day, I did not found anything more romantic than lyrics of this song and I hope that readers will like this. This is a special valentine day gift to all lovers.
"I love your eyes, which hold me captivated.
I love the way you look at me.
I love your smile, which warms every corner of my soul.
I love your voice, which flows to my heart.
I love it when you talk.
I love it when you sing to me
I love your hair, about which I dreamed cascading into my face, as you leaned over me.
I love your hands, which caress with such tenderness.
I love you when you're angry.
I love you when you're sad
I love everything about you and
I love every expression of yours.
I love your undying faith that keeps the flame out of love alive.
I love the way you make me feel, when I am feeling blue.
I love the way you make me laugh
I love you because you bring the best out of me.
I love your small gestures that speak volumes about how much you care.
I love everything that you have done for me.
most of all I love the way that you let me love you. Just being with you feels like I can defy the whole world.
You always make me feel that you are by my side no matter what. Love is, what you mean to me - and you mean everything to me. "I Love you" for everything that you are, as you are, whatever you are and wherever you are. "I Love you", today, tomorrow and will continue to love you till the time I am alive. And even if I die, I will continue to love you and take care of you in one way or another".
Conclusion
Give love; shower love and more love on your spouse, your partner and your life. Don't wait for this day to say, "I love you" to them or let them know, "how important they are in your life"? You will never grow so old to not to love your spouse.
Love her today; love her tomorrow and love her till the moment you breathe your last. Romance him now; romance him tomorrow and romance him till the very last day, Irrespective of your high aspirations, responsibilities, duties and social burden, never let the spark of love between you and your partner go off. In spite of your busy schedule and target deadlines, just snatch away few moments to romance with the person, you love so much.
This Valentine's Day and every day, say, "I love you" to that person of your life who is very special to you and the one you cannot live without.
Have a great Valentine Day and take very good care of yourself.
Enjoy this "special" day with the most "special" person of your life and a very "special" way.
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