Here are 5 signs that overly tolerant attitudes may be drawing you or keeping you in toxic relationship scenarios:
1. You rationalize or minimize your partner's bad behavior to yourself. You may compare your partner's behavior to worse examples of behavior in others. While there may indeed be worse cases and worse relationships than yours, it doesn't mean yours is desirable, it that the bad behavior is acceptable.
2. You excuse your partner's behavior to others, or attempt to hide it. This may be motivated by your desire to keep your partner's reputation protected, and it may also be an attempt to conceal your own shame over putting up with behavior you know you shouldn't.
3. You try to take responsibility and cover for your partner whenever possible. If your partner fails to honor a commitment due to say, drinking or drug use, for example, you may try to step in and fulfill that commitment to remove the consequences for your partner.
4. You may feel convinced that you can't go on without your partner, and feel you must do whatever it takes to keep the relationship intact. Ultimatums may come and go without consequence or follow through, and you may even drop issues rather than risk rocking the boat.
5.You may also feel as if your partner can't go on without you, either, and that they will self destruct or be unable to cope without your presence in his or her life. You may take on the guilt and responsibility for your partner's health, mental well being, and even life. It is more comfortable for you to be in the position of caretaker than to be involved in an equal, give and take relationship.
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