Whatever your blind date history or theory, you don't want to completely rule out the possibility of a happy ending. Scores of couples can attest to the benefits of their first blind date together that led them down the path of marital bliss. So what can a blind date offer?
1. Excitement. Everyone loves a dash of adventure now and then, as long as it doesn't become too scary for comfort. While you may not know the person with whom you have scheduled a date, you must know something about him, and hopefully a bit about his job, family, or friends to ensure that nothing terrible can happen. Of course, if you called a public restroom telephone number, you should prepare for the worst. As you wait for the first encounter, you might imagine all types of scenarios: Perhaps your date is a secret agent, a circus performer, or an aristocrat going incognito. Perhaps you'll have a major argument after five minutes and one of you will storm off in a huff. A blind date is made of the same kind of airy stuff of romance novels, but with a pinch of reality thrown in.
2. Creativity. Since you don't really know your first-time date, you can try a new hairstyle or a dazzling outfit, something you could never wear with someone who knows you. Or you might try on a French accent or a rich-and-famous lifestyle to model it for your soon-to-be-met date. Going out with a totally new person provides a unique opportunity to become the person you always wanted to be, even if it's only for a few hours. If things work out with your new date, you can laugh off your adopted persona as a joke. But if it turns out to be a disaster, well, it's better if he can't track you anyway.
3. Romance. Isn't it wonderful to speculate that this date might be the one you will love forever? Maybe the two of you will enjoy a romantic evening together and never see each other again. Or you may collect a few hours of memories that will become the foundation for a long-term relationship. An unknown dating partner has the potential to become whoever we want or need in our lives at that point. In the hours or moments before the first meeting, you can imagine that this person will be the long-sought partner of your dreams.
4. Hope. If your life lately has fallen into a boring pattern of working, eating, and sleeping, then having a blind date can infuse your life with hope. Perhaps this person will show you things about the world or even yourself that you did not know. Maybe the two of you will end up as fast friends forever. Or he might even introduce you to his roommate and the two of you will live happily ever after. There's something new and refreshing about meeting a person about whom little is known. Enjoy this opportunity to be on the alert for new qualities, new viewpoints, and new experiences.
5. Anonymity. You don't know him, and he doesn't know you. Even though you spend some time together today, tomorrow both of you can disappear into the thin mists of life, never to meet again. That's the beauty of blind dating for many people. You don't have to share much of your life or your identity to find out if the person you will soon meet can be anything more than a brief acquaintance. You can even use a pseudonym if you like. By this time tomorrow, the game will be over--perhaps permanently.
Blind dating offers many benefits that cannot be matched by conventional dating. The next time a well-meaning relative or friend offers to fix you up, don't be so quick to turn down the offer. You just never know what you're missing.
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