Being a stepfather

In this modern world being a step-father you aren't necessarily married to the mother of the children, but nevertheless you have to do your best to accomplish a relationship with her children. This will take patience, love, understanding, and just a lot of ability in getting along with her children and you can do this. It won't be easy, but then it won't be that hard if you really think ahead and do your very best and you can.

No other kind of being a parent has so many pitfalls, well its true, being a stepparent is a tough job but as the world is today we have a lot of meshing of families together and you just gotta do your best to survive.

Blending two sets of children is hard, especially if both sets are living full time with you, although it seems it might be harder if you only had them on weekends or summers as at least you could establish a routine having them around all the time. But you know if you care deeply for that stepchild you might might a large impact on his or her life for the better and have that child's love forever, hey if you don't have his love, if you have his respect you are one step ahead in this stepparent new life.

This is a way to change and enter new life experiences if you take a positive attitude to the new home situtation. Your reaction needs to be positive, if its negative your life and the lives of others around you will be miserable, always remember that. Start off your experience positive and continue to always think positive no matter what happens.
Naturally there will be a get aquainted stage of this new relationship, try to get to know each child, their likes and dislikes, learn, adjust and make good choices. You should be able to learn a lot from them by taking the time.

Remember that each child is different and depending on the relationship with his or her's biological parent life could be easier or hard. Never put down the biological parent as this can hurt your relationship.
Try to establish mutal support and good communication, remember being able to communicate makes the difference in any relationship but especially with this new child in your life. Just take one day at a time, think before you act, and also think before you speak, plan family activites, get out and play baseball for an example or go to a movie, discuss the movie, the game, just get a great relationship going and I bet you will both have a happy life: try it!