Dating seems easy, compared to new relationships. When things are kept casual, you know just what to do (call to say you had a great time) and what not to do (talk about how awesome your ex is). But once you've snagged your sweetie for a more permanent arrangement, you're in new territory.
While you're getting the lay of this new country, try to avoid these landmines.
New Love Blunder #1: Neediness
Wanting to be together is great. Needing to be together to satisfy your bottomless desire for companionship and attention? Not so great. It smacks of desperation and insecurity, for starters, which we all know is just a way of saying "No one has wanted me for a long, long time." Not attractive. Plus, it's the guaranteed fastest way to drive a new love away.
New Love Blunder #2: Future Fascination
Women, in particular, love to take the temperature of the relationship, but the "where is this going" question is so vague that your partner only feels pressure. Just keep the lines of communication open, instead of balling all your relationship insecurities into one awkward, stressful Important Talk.
New Love Blunder #3: Pressure
Don't push your new love into anything he or she isn't ready for - be it sex, the exchange of house keys, or proclamations of love. Instead of dwelling what you want to get out of your new love, try focusing on what does make you happy about your new union. There's plenty of time for all that other stuff, enjoy the early stuff while it lasts. (You'll never, ever be able to return to that breathless, making out on the couch for hours phase).
New Love Blunder #4: TMI Too Soon
Don't try to put your intimacy on the fast-track by unloading all your secrets too early. Your one-month-old relationship probably isn't strong enough to handle your brother's recent suicide, your best friend's drug addiction and your suspicion that this new love is The One. Be patient and reveal a little at a time, until your trust and support of each other can catch up.
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