Tips To Get Over Your First Love

Sometimes it feels as if nothing is as painful as getting over your first love. This is the person that taught you what loves means, and whom you most likely thought you'd spend the rest of your life with.But we should forget,how to get over your first love? These tips are useful:

• Don't be so naive as to believe that you will never love anyone as much as your first love. Most first loves and heartbreaks occur during teen years or early 20s. You still have most of your life ahead of you to find the love of your life.
• Remember that getting your heart broken for the first time is a fact of life. Recognize that you have the power of choice in your life.
• Don't try getting back with your ex. You broke up for a reason, even if you can't really understand that reason,maybe in our life,many things happen without any reason.
• If it has been a very long time since the breakup and it's either not going away or getting worse and worse, you should probably seek help.
• If you feel suicidal, seek help. Nothing in your life should push you to that point. Seek help from any people around you.
• Don't tell him/her that you still love them. You might love them for a while longer, but remember that love is not enough and that your relationship ended for a reason. If you need to, write down the reasons.
• Avoid statements like "I'll never get over him/her." It might seem that way, but it is short-sighted and, in the long run, not true. "Time is the best recipe."
• Don't pretend like you are still together or think of yourselves as a couple. If people refer to him/her as your boy/girlfriend, then correct them.
• If you know their passwords to their email/Myspace/Facebook/etc., resist the temptation to go into their accounts. It will make the pain worse. If they have your passwords, change them immediately. Also, delete them as "friends" on facebook.
• They will not be notified and you will not be tempted to stay invloved in their life. It is time to forget them as best you can. Also, you do not want to be notified everytime they do an update. At a minimum, change your settings so you are not notified everytime they update something.
• Whenever you find yourself dwelling on what you're going through, pick up a book and read yourself out of it. Sometimes distancing yourself from the world by visiting another will help ease your emotions and make it easier to get used to spending time by yourself.
• No relationship is ever a mistake if you can get something out of it, such as learning something new about yourself.
• You might learn that you are indeed a very stubborn person that this might be the opportunity to change yourself for the better and to become a more open minded person.
• Cry, and Cry and Cry as much as you can because it will help you emotions. After this you will feel a lot better.
• Try writing what you're feeling. When you have bad thoughts and feelings repeating in your head, writing it down can provide relief.