How to Be Your Authentic Self In Any Relationship

You always cringe when you see someone you know behave in ways that are clearly designed to impress another. You cringe because they are behaving in ways that are out of character and are clearly trying to be someone they are not.

We have all done this from time to time and in many ways, it is perhaps a natural progression in our quest to understand who we truly are.
At some point, it is time to accept who you are and embrace your own qualities because who make you who you are.
What is the greatest magnetic force between two people? It is the willingness to be authentic and not try to slip into someone else's shoes in an effort to snag a perceived quality you feel is lacking in you.
Being authentic, no matter your personality, is a powerful force of attraction and it is critical in sustaining any relationship.

Step1--It's okay: Now is the time to take a mental inventory of your glowing attributes as well as your not-so shiney traits. You are who you are. Characteristics, qualities, skills, and talents are inherently yours and they are hardwired into your DNA. It is time to accept that you are this person for a reason. God intended it this way, so trust that you are just as you are supposed to be.
Step2--Find comfort: Once you accept that you are created by God Almighty to be the unique person that you are, it becomes easier to accept and embrace who you are! As you do this, it will become easier to acknowledge that you may not have that quit-wit that Holly, down the street, has. Yes, she is hilarious, but she is not as astute as you are, nor does she have your depth of insight.
Step3--Stop trying to be Holly: When you are in interactive situations, it is tempting to pull out the one-liners and to take a stab at dazzling the crowd with your comedy, but please...leave that to Holly. Participate in the interaction as you feel comfortable and appreciate her, don't duplicate her.
Step4--Be magnetic: If you respect yourself, you will not compromise who you are simply because you have found peace with your own set of traits and talents. Once you begin to have a comfort level with this, you will find that people will be more drawn to you. Why? Because authenticity naturally radiates a certain level of self-respect and respect in any form is a natural, yet POWERFUL magnet.