Do not be around the couple constantly. While this can be difficult if you're used to hanging out with your friend all the time, it's time to realize that dating has shifted the time availability that your friend now has. A new couple is going to want some time to themselves, the more you can give them their space when they need it, the less anyone will resent your presence when you are around.
Suggest group activities. You'll feel less of a third wheel if you're not the only person there aside from the couple. Have other mutual friends come along.
Get to know your friend's new girlfriend or boyfriend. Find out what you have in common. If the three of you all get along, you can be more comfortable as a group. Ask your friend to hang out when it's just the two of you, so you won't be encroaching on dating time.
Develop other activities and interests. Make a point of spending more time with your other friends. Consider an after school activity or a different pastime. Not only will you have fun while your friend is out on dates, you'll have lots to tell him or her about next time you're together, but don't make the point of telling them about it to make them jealous of your new activities and friends.
Feeling jealous is natural but don't get angry at your friends new partner. It's not their fault you feel the way you do. A way to solve your problem as not being a third wheel anymore is to start yourself a relationship. In this case there will be four people to hang out or you could just spend the time with your girlfriend/boyfriend.
Despite your efforts, some people will ignore old friends when they start dating. If this is the case, you can try talking to your friend, or simply wait it out. Many relationships don't last and your friend may turn to you again once it is over. But remember not to let your friend get in the habit of blowing you off just because they have a new boyfriend or girlfriend. If this is the case, move on to a new friend.
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