Living in a Sexless Marriage--How to do ?

If you're wondering how to cope with a sexless marriage you may be looking in the wrong place. If you are living in a sexless marriage you shouldn't be trying to cope with it, you should be looking for ways to cure it. Nearly one in five couple are living in a sexless relationship, this means that when you go to the store, bar or restaurant that if there are ten couples in any place the likelihood is that two of those couples have this problem.

Society puts a lot of pressure on couples; they not only need to work harder to afford the nicer things in life but they also need to earn more money due to inflation, increasing house prices, the credit crunch and the cost of raising children so it's not surprising that we can't function normally all of the time.

If you've tried to analyze this situation, chances are that you've got around to playing the blame game. Many people try to work out the problem without the right information, they feel that because it's them that want sex and their partner who doesn't then it must be the partners fault. Putting the blame on your spouse can be the end of your marriage, what if the real reason is down to you but the symptoms have come out in your partner?

Instead of wondering how to cope with a sexless marriage you should put your efforts into fixing it, coping with it means that you have given up.

In this day and age men and women both work to support a household, sometimes the woman can earn more than her husband which makes him feel inferior. Some women stay at home to look after the kids and end up feeling unappreciated which can cause them to feel depressed, these are just two potential causes for sexless marriages, there are hundreds more.
I am not going to list hundreds of causes of a sexless marriage because each marriage is different, each couple is different and unless you know exactly what caused this problem for you! It will take you a very long time to fix the marriage.

Don't give up too easily; so many people with this problem seem to think that the easiest way to deal with this is just to get a divorce, what happens after that? If you love your spouse then you need to stay together and work through this problem.
By reading this far you've taken the first steps to fixing your sexless marriage, as I said earlier it's not about how to cope with a sexless marriage, it's about working together to repair the damage and strengthen your relationship.

Get The Right Information To Cure A Sexless Marriage
Firstly - don't ever take advice from anyone who hasn't had to deal with the problem that you're going through.
Secondly - Yes! A sexless marriage can lead to divorce, affairs and even domestic violence.
Thirdly - Do not listen to people who tell you that a sexless marriage is a small hiccup in your relationship or that sexless marriages can heal themselves over time.
I had been in a sexless marriage and managed to come out the other side a winner. By winner I mean that my marriage is saved and our sex life is back on track. This isn't something which I take lightly because it could have gone so wrong, so easily.
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What Make A Marriage Sexless?
One of the common mistakes people make is that they think a sexless marriage means absolutely no sex - this is not true at all. A sexless marriage is defined as a couple who don't have sex more than 10 times per year.
Does a sexless marriage mean that there is no love? This depends purely on the reasons behind the problem. If one of you is having an affair, there is obviously going to be a love issue. If you have fallen out of love over time that too would mean that there is no love in the relationship.
BUT! As a rule, as sexless marriage isn't about the loss of love between you both. Yes that may sound hard specially if you're the one who's not getting any sex but it is quite true.
Reasons For A Sexless Marriage
We all know that there is a lot of pressure in a relationship just to make it work. Some people find things harder to cope with than others and in a lot of cases it ends up leading to arguments, not talking and progresses into the sexless part.
Family commitmentsWork overloadFinancial worriesThe Global recessionKids
All of these things can pile on the pressure.
It's all well and good seeing a list but what if your problems (or your partners) aren't on that list, there are more reasons than the few here and some of them may be deep rooted or have been building up over months.
Whatever the cause of your sexless marriage, you really need to work fast at fixing it before it's too late.
Forget $500 counselling sessions, save the money for a vacation to re-kindle the passion.
Forget sleeping on the sofa, you can't have a conversation through a wall.
Forget everyone else, as far as you are concerned - there are only 2 people on this planet right now and you need to work together to fix things.
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My Advice For Anyone In A Sexless Marriage
I lived in a sexless marriage for nearly two years, we nearly got divorced, and we both started drinking which only led to more stupid arguments. I slept on the sofa to avoid having to talk or be talked to.
We nearly broke the kid's hearts because we thought that the only way to deal with this was though a divorce.
We played the blame game, you know the one! One of you starts blaming the other and before you know it, the whole thing has grown that big that there doesn't seem any way to say sorry.
I searched the internet to find help, I found sites and articles on what to do - they were obviously written by a single person who had never been in a serious relationship let alone a sexless marriage.
But! I did find help and that's why I have written this.
If you really want to make your marriage work - Take the first step. It doesn't matter whether you're the one who has decided to stop having sex or if you are the one who isn't getting any sex.
One big problem that anyone in a sexless marriage will have to deal with is the lack of communication, once you have re-established this; you can start to make progress.
Sexless Marriage Statistics
According to Newsweek, more than 18% of couples have sex as little as 10 times a year, making them fall into what experts call the 'sexless marriage' category.
Another survey in the Newsweek shows that most married couples have sex about once every week. By contrast, unmarried singles have sex up to three times a week!
About 20-25% of men and 30-50% of women complain about their lack of sex drive.
About 25% of Americans, mostly women, suffer from a condition called Hypoactive Sexual Desire (HSD) which is a condition in which the person feels a persistent lack of interest in sex.