How Long Before I Make the First Call?

When you're a good conversationalist, you probably have no trouble warming up to a new woman. And after a few minutes and a few jokes, it's probably easy for you to get her number. But when you do call her a few days after you first met, she'd sound cold and flaky - which leaves you wondering maybe you should've called her a little later, or a little earlier.

So how long should you really wait until you make the call?
Well, I've learned that you should let at least one day pass before you make a call, but not wait longer than a few days. But while this increases your chances of having a good phone conversation with her, it doesn't really guarantee your success in getting into any sort of relationship with her.

Think of it this way - attractive women out there are used to men asking for their numbers, and so they give them away quite easily. These same women love the attention of having many guys calling them everyday, and won't hesitate to sound cold to you since they have a bunch of other guys waiting on hold anyway.

On a side note, having a lot of guys calling them up also gives some women the bragging rights of complaining, "Why doesn't he stop calling me? Can't he get a clue?"

Of course, this doesn't mean that all attractive women are this mean. In fact, most women are much nicer than this. But you'll need to understand that women aren't really all that receptive to phone calls, particularly from guys they've just met. Once you come to terms with this reality, the better.

Here's an idea: Instead of asking for her phone number, why don't you ask for her e-mail address?

It's a refreshing change from the usual question, and women will find you interestingly different from all the other men they've met. In addition, they can take their time replying to your e-mail, as opposed to being forced to sit down at the phone to talk to you - it shows you're that considerate.

Another great tip is to not ask for her e-mail or number. After a few minutes of conversation, you can tell her, "I gotta go back to my friends. I'll see you later." But the moment you turn away from each other, turn back and say, "Oh, hey. Do you have e-mail?"

This way, you're not automatically assuming she has e-mail, and it gives her the opening to say "no." And when she does say no, you can go ahead and joke, "Oh, okay. Do you at least have electricity?"

There are a million great ways to ask for her e-mail and number. Just don't do what everyone else is doing.