Feb 28, 2009

Top 10 Sexiest Politicians

10. John F. Kennedy
Let’s start inauguration day off right with a JFK Flashback. My Number 10 pick is John F. Kennedy, 35th President of the United States. Beautiful face, dark secrets, a visionary with incredible taste in women. Any man good enough for Marilyn Monroe is good enough for me.

9. Che Guevara
The Revolutionary Che Guevara comes in at number 9, pun intended. You know this guy is passionate and fiery. He must have been an incredible lover, soulful and intense. I can’t imagine a moment in the bedroom with him would ever be boring.



8. Eva Peron
Eva Peron, the First Lady of Argentina makes the list at number 8. Am I the only one that notices how long and strong her fingers look in all those images of her speeches? Enough said.



7. Nikolas Sarkozy
Nikolas Sarkozy, the President of the French Republic is on my list for a few reasons. He’s cute, he’s got a sexy voice, and he’s got that glimmer in his eyes that says “Spank me! I’m a naughty naughty Frenchman!” Courbure au-dessus, de Monsieur.




6. Matti Vanhanen
Next would be the geeky, quirky Prime Minister of Finland, Matti Vanhanen. Crazy-smart, never smiles in public, doesn’t take other people’s advice, doesn’t drink, and is often called “boring” by the media. Still waters run deep, my friends. Look at those eyes and that wild left wing politic of his. This guy is a “gusher” waiting to be “tapped.”





5. Clare Boothe Luce
One of the very first women elected to congress, Clare Boothe Luce is one heady little number. This New York City born, gorgeous woman was a very talented writer. See how much she and I have in common right off the bat? Artsy, sexy, smart, in fashion, and cheekbones to die for.



4. John Gavin
Next I’ll have John Gavin. John was an actor and a Stanford graduate, who served in the Navy. He stared in many films including Psycho. With that strong jawline, sexy little dimple in his chin, and that broad chest perfect for serving up body shots, he was Ambassador to Mexico in the 80’s. Donde es la fiesta, Handsome?

3. Prince Henry
I admit it - I’m a cougar. And calm down, he’ll be 25 this year. Can I get a hell-yeah for Prince Henry of Wales? Yes, that sexy little red headed son of Princess Diana who happens to look more like that body guard then he does Prince Charles, but I digress. What can you say about a guy born into the lap of luxury and privilege who decides to serve two and a half months on the front lines in Afghanistan? Tank Commander Harry, I’d love to salute you, babe.



2. Clint Eastwood
No one will be surprised at this one: Former Mayor of Carmel California, Clint Eastwood. But let’s set the stage in the 1960’s. Think: The Good The Bad and The Ugly. He flips that Mexican poncho thing back and quick-draws his nice big gun. I also like to think he keeps the hat and boots on.



1. Yulia Tymoshenko
Without a doubt my very number one choice for the sexiest politician, is the lovely Yulia Tymoshenko, Prime Minister of Ukraine. Known as the Joan of Arc of the Orange Revolution, named one of the most powerful women in the world by Forbes a couple of times, and donning that trademark braided long blond hair, she is beautiful, strong, brave, vivacious and smart. Purrr, can you imagine the foreplay? First we engage in a heated discussion about her former business partner Pavlov Lazarenko’s fraud and corruption charges, and then we jello wrestle.









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Sexual communication

Sex is incredibly difficult to discuss, despite the vast range of words to choose from and the huge number of sexual images that surround us. But, if you want a good sexual relationship you'll need to be able to talk about it.

Communicating
With good communication you can create the four ingredients of good sex, which build on the initial chemistry of attraction:
  • expressing affection
  • finding a mutual vocabulary
  • communicating likes and dislikes
  • negotiating and compromising

Of course, it's possible to be sexually attracted to someone without feeling much affection for them. Attraction is communicated through body language and eye contact. Affection is expressed through body language, too, but needs to be backed by talking about feelings.
Many people have difficulty expressing emotions, particularly if they come from a background where feelings aren't discussed. At the other end of the scale, some people need to be reassured that the affection they feel is mutual before they can feel relaxed enough to get the fullest enjoyment from sex.

Expressing a common language

Once you've got as far as the bedroom - or wherever you agree you'd like to have sex - the whole experience will be better for you both if you can communicate likes and dislikes. This means stating things in ways that neither of you finds embarrassing, distasteful or silly.
Establishing this vocabulary doesn't happen quickly or in some sort of formal sit-down discussion. It develops with time and trust - and it needs each of you to develop awareness of and sensitivity to the responses of the other.
You'll begin to understand what your partner enjoys, which does not always need to be communicated verbally. But if you share a vocabulary, openness and trust, when you want to ask your partner either to do something specific or to stop it, you won't feel too self-conscious. You'll be aware of the things that give your partner pleasure, and you may be willing to indulge in them. You'll also have a clear idea of which things you're not prepared to engage in.

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5 Sexual Experiences Every Couple Should Have

These five missions will push your sex life—and your relationship—to new heights. Whip out your red pen and start crossing them off your to-do list.

1. Invent Your Own Move
"Improvising new sex positions shows that you're secure enough with each other to experiment," says Susan Crain Bakos, author of The Orgasm Bible. You'll both feel like sexual pioneers, creating self-confidence that will liberate your libidos.
Your assignment: Tweak your old favorites. If you both enjoy rear entry, try standing on the floor while she leans on the bed. If missionary is a standby, shift so your torso is above her head. From there, add variations until you find a move that peaks arousal for both of you.

2. Designate a New "Hump Day"
Carving out a day of erotic activity can stoke your woman's fires. "People complain about 'planning' sex, but reserving this time will build anticipation all month," says relationship therapist Michele Weiner-Davis.
Your assignment: Set aside one weekend day a month to lavish attention on each other. Take a bath together, give massages, or play one-on-one strip poker.

3. Make a Reservation for Sex
"When you're mired in a major life event like buying a house or even planning a vacation, the stress can do your sex life in," says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., the Men's Health Sex Professor.
Your assignment: Tell her what you're going to do after you carry her over the threshold of the new house, or detail your intentions for the outdoor shower after your day at the beach. It'll plant some passion-packed seeds for later.

4. Take a Sex Break
Sex can be stale when it's an assembly-line process—tab A, slot B, repeat. "You need to rebuild the sexual tension," says Weiner-Davis.
Your assignment: Plan a sex-free week (no oral action or wandering hands, either). After 7 agonizing days, both of your libidos will be through the roof. When naked time returns, extend foreplay to ramp up the excitement.

5. Squeeze in a Quickie at a Party
Sneaking away from a public gathering for your own 20-minute private party can jolt a stagnant sex life, says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., author of Different Loving. And reminiscing about that stolen tryst can still spark desire even years later.
Your assignment: At the next cocktail party, grab your girl's hand and lead her to a secluded spot outside or even to your car. Since dryness can be a problem with on-the-fly nooky, start the fun by going down on her first.
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When There is No Trust - How to Stop a Divorce

A lack of trust is one of the main reasons why people get a divorce. How you can stop a divorce is one of the largest searched terms on the Internet. Everyone seems to have the right answer. Well there is no one single answer to stop a divorce as everyone is different.

Perhaps you have reached this point in your life because at least someone in the relationship was unfaithful. Well I am here to tell you that there are things that can help and there are definitely things that can really hurt you in the end. If you want to stop a divorce then you are going to have to take some real responsibility for your actions and make massive changes in your life.
Words can carry only so much weight. Actions are far better then words. You need to prove you can be trusted again in order for the trust that was broken to be regained. Take your time in order to reignite that passion you had for each other. You need to prove that you can be trusted again.

One way you can really mess things up is to try and justify the reasons why you cheated. You are not really owning up to your actions and not taking responsibility for them either if you follow this route. A real man will take on his own problems and face them down with a sense of pride.

Perhaps you should consider a relationship counselor. After all it is the relationship that is faltering right now. Can you work to repair it? If so then do everything in your power to get that level of trust back.

Getting back with your ex after you broke the level of trust is going to be difficult but not impossible. Many have done it before. The trick here is to really not make the same mistakes in order to win your ex back. Making mistakes can cost you far more then you think. It can cost you the love of your life.
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5 Steps to Ease the Depression That Arises From Divorce

Divorce is a challenging and emotionally draining process for many people. For a great number of individuals, divorce can also lead to symptoms of depression. These symptoms can include lingering feelings of sadness, hopelessness, a sense of dread or anxiety, loss of energy and interest in activities, and changes in appetite and/or sleeping habits. If these symptoms continue without being addressed, they can become a full blown depression. Severe depression may require medication to manage, but many milder cases can be addressed using natural methods.

Here are 5 steps to ease the depression that might arise during divorce:
1. Eat healthy meals and avoid junk foods. This may seem an odd place to start, but the fact is that the mind and body are intricately linked. Taking good care of one helps to support the health of the other. Eat as many fresh fruits and vegetables as you can, and eat lean proteins and whole grains instead of processed foods. If your appetite is off, carry around small bags of snacks you can munch on throughout the day. If overeating is a concern, avoid any eating that is done while distracted, e.g. in front of the television, and set a time in the evening beyond which you don't eat.
2. Try supplements. A food based multivitamin is a good start, along with calcium if the foods you eat don't contain much. Fish oil is an excellent supplement that helps support brain function, among other benefits. L-Theanine can be very effective in relieving anxiety, and 5 HTP (hydroxytryptophan) is a useful and natural antidepressant, being the precursor to serotonin, the brain neurotransmitter that helps regulate mood. It is advisable to check with your health care practitioner before using any new supplements.
3. Adopt a program of exercise that your doctor approves. Once you know what level and intensity of activity is appropriate, you can tailor a program around cardiovascular exercise that promotes a sustained elevation of your heart rate and allow for the release of endorphins, the feel good compounds that help elevate mood. Ideally, 45 minutes 5 times a week is a good goal for combating depression.
4. Talk out your emotions and struggles. A counselor can be an excellent resource, offering trained and unbiased support and feedback. Friends and family can also be good sources of emotional support.
5. Take small steps to value yourself. Do something nice for yourself each day. Make a list of little indulgences and things you enjoy, and pick one that you do every day. Cross the item off your list and keep going. Make a new list once that one is completed.
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Meaningful Anniversary Ideas Don't Have to Cost a Thing

There are some special events that almost demand an exchange of gifts. Birthdays and Christmas immediately come to mind. While deciding what gift to give that special person can be stressful, you can take comfort in knowing buying a gift is what you need to do.

Anniversaries, however, are about remembering and commemorating. The event that triggers them can be happy or sad, personal or professional, private or public. There are as many different ways to celebrate them as there are triggers. That can make it a lot harder to come up with anniversary ideas that appropriately mark the day.

While exchanging gifts is certainly one way you can mark the occasion, it's not the only way. Nor is it always the most appropriate thing to do. Perhaps the most important thing to remember as you try to gather and narrow down anniversary ideas is that in the end all that will matter is that you show you do remember why this particular day has meaning to you and the other person.

In fact, you may be very pleasantly surprised by how many perfect anniversary ideas you come up with when you let go of the idea that you have to buy some sort of gift. Instead of concentrating on that, close your eyes for a moment and concentrate on the earliest days of your relationship with this person.

If it's someone you're romantically involved with, try to recall the details of your first dates. Doing something together that you enjoyed then, going to the same restaurant (or recreating it in your own kitchen if it no longer exists), even playing the same music, can make a new special moment.

The same sort of mental exercise can also help you come up with ideas for celebrating business anniversaries. For example, let's say Friday is the anniversary of the day you hired your very first employee, John Smith. You could do something as small as a "thank you for your hard work" email that goes out to everyone in the company. If it includes a few personal details about how nervous you felt interviewing him, but how you knew the two of you would get along fine when he admitted he wasn't a good golfer, it will help all your employees feel a little more connected, valued and loyal to the firm.

Don't get me wrong; there is a place for candy and flowers in anniversaries as well. Even sad public events, like the death of a princess, or 911 remembrances are appropriately marked by flowers, but where they are gathered and viewed is more important than what kind are bought.
Fortunately for all of us, most of the dates we will want to mark and remember through anniversaries are happy times. Science has proven that good memories have more "sticking" power in our memories and are more easily recalled. That certainly explains why significant others tend to become so upset when anniversaries are not remembered or marked!
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Use Fun Questions to Get Off to a Good Start

If you have ever heard the old saying that you only have one chance to make a good first impression, it is indeed accurate. Unfortunately, it may give you the idea that if you show yourself as being anything less than perfect, you may blow your chance to make a good impression. This can cause a lot of stress; but it isn't necessary.

Getting off to a good start does not mean presenting yourself as perfect. It does not even mean trying to figure out what the woman considers to be an ideal man and then trying to meet those expectations. There is no reason to set yourself up for failure or frustration-- and it is not what most women want anyway.

When you are thinking about how to make a good first impression, "Can I be the man of your dreams?" is one of the fun questions to get to know someone, but it is as relevant to finding her response as well as learning something very important about yourself. What may sound like a standard pick-up line can help you to find out from the beginning whether you are the type of person whose company she will enjoy on a date. The question you ask can make all the difference!

There is another, equally important, point to this question. It will help you realize that getting off to a good start by making a good impression means being exactly who you are.

Today's women are intelligent; most do not respond favorably to men who are phonies or braggarts. A good impression is not made by showing off, attempting to appear perfect, or trying to be someone or something you are not. You will impress the lady on a much deeper level when you make a point of just being yourself. When it comes to making the most positive first impression, and getting dates with the women you are truly interested in, asking fun questions to get to know them or handing fun cards is the best way.
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Feb 27, 2009

Stay at home fathers

If you are a stay at home Dad you have joined a lot of men that are staying home and raising their children.
Naturally, once a child is not breast feeding then a Dad can take over the job as the stay at home Dad. But then that doesn't matter as the breast milk can be expressed and kept in bottles for Dad to feed the baby when Mom is away at her place of employment.

As we already know a Dad hanging around the classroom waiting for his child is not as familiar to others as a Mom waiting. I know you have probably been asked if you work: of course you work, just as hard as many stay at home Moms.

You probably have a good laugh with your wife when she comes home after a long day at the office about the smiles and stares you get standing and waiting for your child's class to end.
Sometimes when there is a divorce the Mom will be the one to move away and the Dad will be the only parent for the children. Men just have more choices now and in some homes the Dad will be the one at home and the Mom will be the one at work.

When you take your child to the neighborhood play area the Moms always wonder what you are doing there, but you might need to just say hello to a few, introduce yourself and your child and then you'll just be accepted each time you and your child arrive for him to play.
I would think also that when you say you are a stay at home Dad: some will say to you that this is just so remarkable that your wife works and earns the family income and that you are doing her job. They'll probably also remark that their husbands couldn't take care of the children as
they just wouldn't know what to do at all.
It is a wonderful time in our society that women and men can make the choice as to who makes the living and who raises the children. Sometimes one can just bring in more income or one wants to be at home and the other to work, but no matter who makes the living you are a family and nothing else matters. I have been spotting more Dads at the school lately when I pick up my grandson from his preschool class. It does make sense and to your child or children this is a natural way of life.

I would suggest you enjoy your role as a Dad at home and do your very best. It does make a lot of sense as the last count I read was that well over two and one half million Dad's are staying home and the number is known to be rising yearly.
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Being a stepfather

In this modern world being a step-father you aren't necessarily married to the mother of the children, but nevertheless you have to do your best to accomplish a relationship with her children. This will take patience, love, understanding, and just a lot of ability in getting along with her children and you can do this. It won't be easy, but then it won't be that hard if you really think ahead and do your very best and you can.

No other kind of being a parent has so many pitfalls, well its true, being a stepparent is a tough job but as the world is today we have a lot of meshing of families together and you just gotta do your best to survive.

Blending two sets of children is hard, especially if both sets are living full time with you, although it seems it might be harder if you only had them on weekends or summers as at least you could establish a routine having them around all the time. But you know if you care deeply for that stepchild you might might a large impact on his or her life for the better and have that child's love forever, hey if you don't have his love, if you have his respect you are one step ahead in this stepparent new life.

This is a way to change and enter new life experiences if you take a positive attitude to the new home situtation. Your reaction needs to be positive, if its negative your life and the lives of others around you will be miserable, always remember that. Start off your experience positive and continue to always think positive no matter what happens.
Naturally there will be a get aquainted stage of this new relationship, try to get to know each child, their likes and dislikes, learn, adjust and make good choices. You should be able to learn a lot from them by taking the time.

Remember that each child is different and depending on the relationship with his or her's biological parent life could be easier or hard. Never put down the biological parent as this can hurt your relationship.
Try to establish mutal support and good communication, remember being able to communicate makes the difference in any relationship but especially with this new child in your life. Just take one day at a time, think before you act, and also think before you speak, plan family activites, get out and play baseball for an example or go to a movie, discuss the movie, the game, just get a great relationship going and I bet you will both have a happy life: try it!
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How to be a good step mother

Being a new step mother is probably one of the most difficult, daunting and hard things to do.
Just think about all the upheavals, difficulties, and arguments you will face - and this is just the beginning.

When you join a new family the best way to approach the task is to talk about your fears and problems.
The golden rule to remember is this: Your 'new children' may not want you there. They may have had a mother who they want there instead. Most times this just isn't possible. The best way to address this is to talk to them. Tell them you are not trying to step into anyones shoes - and that you are not a replacement for the missing mother.

Here are a few tips for coping with being a step mother:
1. Remember that they are not your children. They are bound to act out a little in the beginning. Do not discipline them yourself. Talk to your partner about this and decide that he decide punishments - not you. If you do not do this it will only make the children believe that you are the 'enemy'.
2. Talk to them. Be interested in what they are doing at school, their lives etc. Do not be nosy, and don't seem like you are prying and then reporting back to your husband/their father.
3. Keep anything they tell you a secret. How can they trust you if everything thet tell you is relayed back to their father? Obviously anything serious and cause for concern should be told to your partner, but ensure that he does not tell his children that you told him.
4. Do not try to replace the missing mother. Don't try to look, cook, talk or act like her.
5. Remember when times are tough that it will get easier.
6. Be a good listener.
7. Don't bad mouth the children's mother in front of them. If she is still alive/around try to arrange contact and show them that you are not trying to keep them from their real mother.
8. Try to do things as a family. This won't happen overnight. As the children trust you more and welcome you into theuir family it will bcome easier.
9. Treat them as small adults - not children.
In time it will get easier. You will need patience, compromising skills and a great deal of listening abilities. It will take time but you will get there in the end!
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Blind date benefits

Anyone who has been on several blind dates will probably have a horror story to tell. It may be the one about the gorgeous new guy who made the girl feel like an overstuffed tomato. Or it could be a story of the geek who turned into a Valentino wannabe.
Whatever your blind date history or theory, you don't want to completely rule out the possibility of a happy ending. Scores of couples can attest to the benefits of their first blind date together that led them down the path of marital bliss. So what can a blind date offer?

1. Excitement. Everyone loves a dash of adventure now and then, as long as it doesn't become too scary for comfort. While you may not know the person with whom you have scheduled a date, you must know something about him, and hopefully a bit about his job, family, or friends to ensure that nothing terrible can happen. Of course, if you called a public restroom telephone number, you should prepare for the worst. As you wait for the first encounter, you might imagine all types of scenarios: Perhaps your date is a secret agent, a circus performer, or an aristocrat going incognito. Perhaps you'll have a major argument after five minutes and one of you will storm off in a huff. A blind date is made of the same kind of airy stuff of romance novels, but with a pinch of reality thrown in.

2. Creativity. Since you don't really know your first-time date, you can try a new hairstyle or a dazzling outfit, something you could never wear with someone who knows you. Or you might try on a French accent or a rich-and-famous lifestyle to model it for your soon-to-be-met date. Going out with a totally new person provides a unique opportunity to become the person you always wanted to be, even if it's only for a few hours. If things work out with your new date, you can laugh off your adopted persona as a joke. But if it turns out to be a disaster, well, it's better if he can't track you anyway.

3. Romance. Isn't it wonderful to speculate that this date might be the one you will love forever? Maybe the two of you will enjoy a romantic evening together and never see each other again. Or you may collect a few hours of memories that will become the foundation for a long-term relationship. An unknown dating partner has the potential to become whoever we want or need in our lives at that point. In the hours or moments before the first meeting, you can imagine that this person will be the long-sought partner of your dreams.

4. Hope. If your life lately has fallen into a boring pattern of working, eating, and sleeping, then having a blind date can infuse your life with hope. Perhaps this person will show you things about the world or even yourself that you did not know. Maybe the two of you will end up as fast friends forever. Or he might even introduce you to his roommate and the two of you will live happily ever after. There's something new and refreshing about meeting a person about whom little is known. Enjoy this opportunity to be on the alert for new qualities, new viewpoints, and new experiences.

5. Anonymity. You don't know him, and he doesn't know you. Even though you spend some time together today, tomorrow both of you can disappear into the thin mists of life, never to meet again. That's the beauty of blind dating for many people. You don't have to share much of your life or your identity to find out if the person you will soon meet can be anything more than a brief acquaintance. You can even use a pseudonym if you like. By this time tomorrow, the game will be over--perhaps permanently.

Blind dating offers many benefits that cannot be matched by conventional dating. The next time a well-meaning relative or friend offers to fix you up, don't be so quick to turn down the offer. You just never know what you're missing.
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Tips to Help Your Child Succeed In School

Schools have become more advanced in their teaching practices and expect more from their students than ever before. In order to help your child succeed in school, it's important to understand what it is they are learning and what kind of learning style they possess. A little time and guidance can make the world of difference in helping your child do their best in school.

Step1--Ask your child what they learned in school each day. Sometimes this is a difficult task because many children will say "nothing" or "not much". In order to dig deeper, try asking specific questions like..."how was Spelling today? Did you learn any new words?" This will prompt your child to explain his subjects. It will also show him you have an interest in what he is learning. This is important for helping him to value school as well.
Step2--Prompt him to do homework before play. Once children sit down to play games or other hobbies, their interest in school is out the window. Catch them when they are fresh from learning and still have a little energy for it. They may complain a bit, but getting them to do homework later will be harder because they will be into other things and have schoolwork out of their minds. Sit and do homework with them as well. This helps children to feel more focused because you are also doing the same thing they are.
Step3--Have homework items readily available to work with. Have a notebook handy for writing spelling words, have crayons available for practicing shapes and colors (if they are young), and have writing supplies such as pencils and erasers on hand to prepare children for work. This way, there will be no interruptions to get supplies or a way for your child to procrastinate in doing homework. It will also keep the transition from school to homework flowing smoothly so that children understand they must do their work before play.
Step4--Be creative. Help your child have fun with homework. Work doesn't have to be dull. If it's done with enthusiasm on your part, children will be more apt to want to participate in their own learning experience. For example, when helping your child do math problems, keep a box of Cheerios on hand to act as numbers and add, subtract, multiply, or divide the Cheerios to teach children problem solving. Let your child do it also. You can use cereal, animal crackers, gumballs, gummy worms, or whatever you like. Just make it fun!
Step5--Keep contact with your child's teacher to find out how he is doing in the classroom. Discuss any issues you may have by observing his learning at home and allow her to communicate any troubles he may be having in school. It's important to keep an open mind when listening to your child's teacher's comments. No parent wants to hear that their child has been misbehaving or has trouble learning. But listening with an open mind can help your child overcome obstacles he may have and help him to be a better student. Good teachers will happily suggest and listen to ideas on how to help your child. If you are faced with a teacher that won't listen or communicate with you about your child, then it's time to take issues to the principal. Step6--Last, but not least, praise your child for his accomplishments, but don't dwell on his limitations. If he received all A's and B's and a couple of C's, tell him how proud you are of the higher grades and that you two together can work on the lower ones. Let him know that you understand school can be tough and tiring and that you are there to help him. You can explain that you are disappointed in his lower grades, but also support him by telling him you know he can bring them up with a little help. When a child senses that a parent can be understanding, it helps him to open up about things that may be troubling him at school and can later lead to a very important open communication during his teenage and adult years.

Tips & Warnings
Always try new things. If one idea for helping your child advance in school does not work, try another...and keep trying until he succeeds.
Not all children learn the same. Understand that your child may be a visual learner while his friends may learn by sound.
Offering constant support will help a child succeed in just about anything he does.
Don't be afraid to go above a teacher's head if you or your child are having trouble with that teacher.
Talk to his principal and explain the situation.
Try to be positive with your child, even when you are disappointed. He wants to please you just as much as he wants to do good in school for himself.
If your child is not succeeding in school due to a bully, peer pressure, or other issues in school, consider getting help from the principal or a school counselor who can tend to these issues appropriately.
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Feb 26, 2009

Essentials Of A Good Woman

I'll tell you one thing: There are no thighs that look as good as the ones that are about to walk out your front door and never come back. This is doubly true if she's a good woman because you'll learn real quick how tough it is to find another.
Men cannot live on broads alone, even though they'd like to. As much as you want to chase tail forever, if you find a good woman, consider the fact that they don't come along often. Having a woman that you can trust is invaluable, especially after the world has boxed your ears for a few decades. Rest assured that I ain't no saint, but I try to keep priorities straight at home.
You'll never have a shortage of problems in life, so I say forget about dating women stuck on the "crazy" setting. A friend of mine got stabbed in the leg with a fork by his goomah. Need I say more? Those chicks are nighttime fun, sure, but they are erratic and costly, and they distract you from business. Besides, I'm not sure adulthood is meant to be fun. Your 20s were meant to be fun. After that, the real world expects responsibility, and a good woman can help you find success. I'll tell you what: In your 40s, the most fun in life comes after you've worked hard at something and can celebrate a victory, such as after you've pulled off a casino scam.
So what is a good woman? I know what you're thinking: a deaf-mute Pamela Anderson. But jokes aside, here are some things to look for and a few to avoid.

good qualities
Loyal
The same rule that applies to capos and bosses can apply to your wife or girlfriend. Loyalty is a virtue, especially when it comes to pillow talk at bedtime. Secrets get shared in every relationship. If she's nosy, that's a problem, but over the course of time -- unless you're sleeping with a real deadbolt -- she'll figure certain things out, and she of all people had better not be a rat.
Supportive
One thing that's very important is how she represents you when you're apart. If she goes out with the girls and drags you down endlessly, that's disaffection, brother. If she has a low opinion of you, it needs to be confined and then unwound. In the same way, you shouldn't be dragging her name through the mud. If there's a problem, fix it at home or tackle the issue constructively, but you don't need her plaguing your reputation when plenty of cafones are willing to do it already. If she's got to criticize you, it’s better to have it done to your face.
There’s no way you’ll get anywhere in life if you have some broad nagging at you…
Patient
If she nags you, this is a serious, deadly problem. Like the black mold that grows in bathrooms, it's best to recognize this early. I'm certain that nagging shortens a man's lifespan more than smoking does. And guys, if you want to make a splash in this world, you can't be browbeaten into going to the ballet instead of playing poker. Have you ever heard a story about a gangster in the 1930s saying, "Yes dear, ok, fine, I'll stop bootlegging"?
Sensible
As much as we like goomahs to be dumb, wives shouldn't be. You have a doormat on your stoop, but you shouldn't file taxes with one. If you have a dumb woman, then you might end up with dumb kids, especially if you expect her to raise them while you're out working. Now, keep in mind that I say "smart," as in common sense, but you don't want some pinko with a Ph.D. in penis envy. John Gotti's wife, Victoria, raised his kids and stayed married to him through all of his court cases -- and she was a high-school dropout.
Calm
Your confidence in your career will wax and wane with successes and failures. Taking risks means working toward success, and if you have a woman that supports you, it's like leaving the house wearing a newly pressed shirt. A woman who believes in your dreams will make reaching your goals that much better because she helped you get there. If Dillinger's marriage hadn't fallen apart, maybe he'd have become an American Family Insurance salesman instead of America's Most Wanted. A nice sweetheart can talk sense into you when you're angry with such simple lines as, "You look nice, baby, but please don't sack that Wells Fargo."

bad qualities
Party girl
We all love these types of girls -- but to settle down with? Forget about it. If problems with drugs or alcohol are even remote questions, answer them by giving her a beer for the road and saying, "Hit the bricks, honey." This will be a real issue if you have kids, and simply put, it's unacceptable. This is not to suggest that a prude or a teetotaler is best, because it's nice to have some fun with your woman. But if she's tipping her glass by noon and it ain't Sunday Communion, she's got a problem, and therefore, so do you. “In vino veritas” means "there is truth in wine," and in my business, that leads to another saying: “Loose lips sink ships.”
It ain’t all in the gazongas, boys…
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The Best Recipe for a Broken Heart

Pain is a lesson that can help the individual to realize
He is a human with feelings,
Feelings to feel the pain,
And feelings to feel the sorrow.
The best recipe for a broken heart-
Forget the past,
Learn lesson from the past,
Think positively,
Believe in yourself,
Love and never hate yourself,
Always think innovation of yourself,
Stop comparing yourself unto others,
Instead compare yourself to your past self,
So you can be able to determine who you are
And learn to appreciate yourself.
If you have tried and met with failure;
If you have planned and watched your plans as they were crushed before your eyes;
Just remember that greatest men in all history were the products of courage,
And courage, you know, is born in the cradle of adversity.
As you sail through life,
Don’t avoid rough waters!
Sail on… because calm seas;
Never make you a skillful sailor!
Be strong always!
Because God will be your anchor!
Wish you many blessings to come and God bless!
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My Wife Left Me! Become the Better Man

Your wife has left you! I can only but imagine from my own real life experience that you are feeling rather depressed right now, and the fact that you feel she doesn't love you any more has left quite a hole in your heart! There are many reasons why a wife leaves a husband, she may have left for another man, or a woman. Or perhaps she left because she felt that you did not pay her enough attention, and she feels like she would be better of alone. A more common reason is that the two of you have lost touch with each other, and have lost the art to communicate, and have grown apart...

My wife left me and we were separated for two years, and the best part of that time she hated me, and I was stuck in love and wanted to get her back! That was a very bad time for me, the more I wanted her back and pushed for her attention, the more she would make me feel like a looser. And then one day I woke up and realized what I was doing to myself and gave up! What I did then was exactly what you are doing now, looking for good reliable help...

What I found is that there are heaps of sites offering help to get my wife back, and many looked rather good! I posted at forums and got the odd good reply, I signed up for free email advice, and I research the hell out of those self help sites...

A lot of time was wasted, and I would have saved much of that time if I had went with my gut feeling! When my wife left me for reasons that I could have prevented, I turned into a misery guts, and was not the man that any woman would have wanted. The biggest problem was I couldn't see that, the gut feeling, and the main requirement that all the get your wife back help sites are about becoming the better man. There is no benefit in sitting around sulking and saying "my wife left me" that will just keep you down...

It is hard to get your self up and be positive at this time, I do realize that, but the sooner you do the better your chances! Your wife left for reasons of negative attributes in your relationship, the best thing right now is to accept them for what they are and use this time to eradicate them, and become the man she wants...

Life has many challenges, those that are based around love seem to be the hardest, but if you can do what you personally need to, to get your wife back, it can be very rewarding.
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Cheating by Mobile Phone

Cheating by mobile phone is more common than most people would like to imagine. Heck, your husband and wife could be talking to their significant other while you are in the car with them. How are you ever going to find out the truth; especially if they tell you that it is work related?
Is there a way to track down and uncover the truth if your spouse is cheating by mobile phone? This is a question that you most likely have asked yourself if you suspect that your husband or wife is being unfaithful to you. So what causes both men and women to wonder if their spouse is cheating by mobile phone?

Here are some surefire ways to tell that your spouse could be cheating by mobile phone:
1. Private Calls: It seems that no matter who they are on the phone with; you never get to hear their conversation. If you are in the car with them they make up some type of excuse of why they will have to return the call.
2. Hide Their Phone: Does it seem as though they take their phone with them everywhere they go. At one point in your relationship they did not care if the phone sat on the kitchen counter while they were in the shower; today they take it with them into the bathroom. If you ask them why they make up some kind of excuse like "they are waiting on an important phone call."
3. Call Logs: Every time you look at the call logs you discover that they have always been cleared. Most cell phones today will allow the owner of the phone to erase the previously received and previously placed calls. Therefore if you are able to get a hold of the phone; you have no way of finding out who just call; or do you?
4. Phone Bill: It seems that every month they beat you to the mail box to get a hold of the phone bill so you will not be able to see who they are talking to. This is a big red flag; especially if this is the only bill they are concerned with.

Of course there are other signs that your spouse may be cheating on you. For ways to find out how you can find out who they are talking to; then I highly recommend that you visit the site below. You will also receive more valuable tips that will tell you whether your relationship is in trouble or not.
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Most Deadly Mistakes You Must Avoid If You Want Your Ex Back

If you have made some mistakes that have contributed to your breakup then do not fall in the same trap again and make more mistakes while trying to get your ex back. There are some mistakes that you should absolutely avoid and if you follow my lead, you will certainly end up with your ex's fingers entwined in your own instead of your cheeks.

The first common mistake that I have seen innumerable people make is that they beg, plead, cajole, roll on the ground, and commit many more unspeakable acts in the absurd hope of winning their ex back.
The only thing you can win if you follow their steps is a loser's tag. Handle the breakup with maturity and with a calm demeanor.

Another mistake that people do is to either rush back to a previous partner or find a new date to make their ex jealous. If you are contemplating this move then be aware that this could turn into an uncontrollable situation.
If by chance your ex decides to accept you back, you will have two partners to think about and if they both realize that you are planning to go with the other then welcome to single-town.

Another common mistake is if you end up following each move of your ex. This could fall under the category of stalking in some countries and your ex too is not going to be happy with your actions.
Instead, simply ask common friends for news about your ex. This should be enough to keep tabs on him/her.

One last mistake that many people commit is speaking badly about their ex partners. If you spew anger on your ex in front of common friends then you might as well forget about a reunion with your ex.
As soon as this news reaches your ex, he/she is bound to either retaliate in kind or simply close all doors of a possible get-together.

So, I would like you to avoid the above 4 mistakes if you want to make a serious bid to win over your ex again.
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Dating Advice For Women--What Happens If You Call Him Too Much?

When you're in a relationship with a man that you are crazy about, what happens if you call him too much? Will he embrace it and think you're delightful because you want to talk to him as often as you do or will it irritate him and cause tension between the two of you? Obviously the answer varies depending on the man in question and the strength of the relationship, but most men do view telephone calls with their lover the same way. Unfortunately, it's not the same way that we women do.

What typically happens when you call him too much is you quickly lose his interest. The reasoning behind this is actually very simple. Men are hunters, they love the thrill of the chase whether that's playing a video game or trying to catch the heart of a woman. If you are the woman in question and you make it too easy for your man, he's going to start looking for something a bit more challenging, or someone a bit more challenging. If you call him several times throughout the day you may start to notice that he doesn't always pick up. Or if he does he sounds impatient and frustrated. Another very common scenario is the man who always lets your calls go to his voicemail and then never calls you back.

The best approach to take when it comes to men and telephone calls is to use that privilege sparingly. Only call him when he's already left you a voicemail or he's specifically requested you call him. If he's told you that he'll call you, let him, even if it takes him days and days to do it. Play a little hard to get by not always answering his calls. This may seem like a game but it's actually an easy way for a woman to keep her man chasing her. If you can keep him running after you, you'll always have his interest.

You need to always remember that men and women view phone calls, emails and text in very different ways. If you make the mistake of calling too frequently, at the wrong time or before he's ready to hear from you, you can actually turn him off. Women unwittingly ruin their chances of a future with a man because they are too over eager to hear from him. Don't let this happen to you.
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Best Kissing Technique

Kissing is perhaps everybody's favorite activity. We all want to be kissed; it's a very delightful feeling. When we were young, our parents showered us with kisses and it lifted our spirits high. It also helps in boosting our self- esteem. Kissing - it gives us that warm and fuzzy feeling inside. Now, that we are adults, it did not change much. We show our affection and love through it. It makes us feel better and also safe and secure. Kissing is one urge we can't help to do with our loved one. Just like a kid who cannot get enough kisses from his or her parents, so is an adoring lover from his or her partner.

Kissing is also essential to keep passion in the relationship. A morning kiss from your hubby can magically turn your day into a fairy tale. A goodnight kiss can get you to sleep like a baby. And of course, love making is not complete without kisses. Kissing, if done perfectly and passionately, can make every love making enchanting. So what's the secret of an expert kisser? One is hygiene, believe me, no matter how good looking you are or attractive, if you don't have oral hygiene, you cannot get anybody to kiss you. So be sure to brush every after meal and have a mint candy ready after eating in a Mexican deli or after drinking or smoking- nobody likes to kiss an ashtray.

Okay, now let's go to the best kissing technique. First of all you should relax and be comfortable. If you're nervous and conscious you won't be able enjoy the pleasure of it all and so with your partner. If both of you are comfortable, you have to learn to kiss with your body. Nothing feels better than kissing with your body rubbing each other. Your hand on the side of her face and slowly move your hands at the back of her neck as the kiss progresses. Talking about progress, be sure to put some rhythm in your lip locking.

The rhythm should be supple and sensual at the same time strong. Don't just stick your tongue inside and dive it down her throat and attack everything inside like a loose cobra. It will definitely turn her off, if not choke her. Rhythm is vital in kissing. It makes kissing very sensuous and moving. And if the rhythm is perfect, before you know it, she can't wait to take her clothes off. It's the rhythm that builds up the heat of the moment. After you have perfected the rhythm, gently move her hair on to one side and slowly go to her neck.

Using your wet lips start at the bottom of her ears, in line with the jaw and follow the trail of the prominent vein that ends in the clavicle. Once you have reached the clavicle, run your mouth to the shoulders. Without a doubt, this will bring shivers to her spine. When you are done, look at her in the eyes with a warm smile and tell her how much you adore her. This will give substance to your kisses and make it a kiss to remember.
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Good Friends Are Good for You

"You got to have friends to make that day last long," sings Bette Midler. But good friends may help your life last longer, too, according to an Australian study. Conducted by the Centre for Ageing Studies at Flinders University, the study followed nearly 1,500 older people for 10 years. It found that those who had a large network of friends outlived those with the fewest friends by 22%.
Why is this so? The authors suspect that good friends discourage unhealthy behaviors such as smoking and heavy drinking. And the companionship provided by friends may ward off depression, boost self-esteem, and provide support. Also, as people age, they may become more selective in their choice of friends, so they spend more time with people they like.
Close relationships with children and relatives, in contrast, had almost no effect on longevity. Lynne C. Giles, one of the four researchers who conducted the study, emphasized that family ties are important; they just seem to have little effect on survival.

The Health Benefits of Good Friends
Lots of research has shown the health benefits of social support.
One such study, reported in the journal Cancer, followed 61 women with advanced ovarian cancer. Those with ample social support had much lower levels of a protein linked to more aggressive types of cancer. Lower levels of the protein, known as interleukin 6, or IL-6, also boosted the effectiveness of chemotherapy. Women with weak social support had levels of IL-6 that were 70% higher in general, and two-and-a-half times higher in the area around the tumor.
In 1989, David Spiegel, MD, a professor of psychiatry at Stanford University, published a landmark paper in Lancet. Itshowed that women with breast cancer who participated in a support group lived twice as long as those who didn't. They also had much less pain.
Sheldon Cohen, PhD, a psychology professor at Carnegie Mellon University, in Pittsburgh, has shown that strong social support helps people cope with stress.
"Friends help you face adverse events," Cohen tells . "They provide material aid, emotional support, and information that helps you deal with the stressors. There may be broader effects as well. Friends encourage you to take better care of yourself. And people with wider social networks are higher in self-esteem, and they feel they have more control over their lives."
Other studies have shown that people with fewer friends tend to die sooner after having a heart attack than people with a strong social network. Having lots of friends may even reduce your chances of catching a cold. That's true even though you're probably exposed to more viruses if you spend a lot of time with others.
"People with social support have fewer cardiovascular problems and immune problems, and lower levels of cortisol -- a stress hormone," says Tasha R. Howe, PhD, associate professor of psychology at Humboldt State University. "Why? The evolutionary argument maintains that humans are social animals, and we have evolved to be in groups. We have always needed others for our survival. It's in our genes. Therefore, people with social connections feel more relaxed and at peace, which is related to better health."

Friends Can Be Stressful
Friends can be a source of stress, though. In fact, friends can cause more stress than others precisely because we care so much about them.
Julianne Holt-Lunstad, PhD, an assistant professor of psychology at Brigham Young University, has found that dealing with people who arouse conflicted feelings in us can raise blood pressure more than dealing with people we don't like.
"My colleagues and I were interested in relationships that contain a mix of positivity and negativity," she says. "For example, you might love your mother very much, but still find her overbearing or critical at times."
By attaching people to portable blood pressure monitors, Holt-Lunstad and her colleagues found that blood pressure was highest when people were interacting with someone they felt ambivalent about.
What she found really surprising was that these interactions caused higher blood pressure than those with people the research subjects felt completely negative about. "We suspect that people we feel positive toward can hurt us that much more when they make a snide comment or don't come through for us because they are important to us. Friends may help us cope with stress, but they also may create stress."
So would we be better off having no friends at all?
Hardly. "One thing research shows is that as one's social network gets smaller, one's risk for mortality increases," Holt-Lunstad says. "And it's a strong correlation -- almost as strong as the correlation between smoking and mortality."
The Impact of LonelinessWhat about loners? Are they at greater risk of dying because they prefer to be alone?
Only if they feel lonely. One study found that drug use among young people was higher among those who said they were lonely. Older lonely people tended to have higher blood pressure and poorer sleep quality. They also were more tense and anxious.
Another study found that college freshmen who had small social networks and claimed to be lonely had weaker immune responses to flu vaccinations. They also had higher levels of stress hormones in their blood.
Unfortunately, Americans have fewer friends than they used to, according to a recent study, "Social Isolation in America," published in the American Sociological Review. The authors found that from 1985 to 2004, the number of Americans who feel they have someone with whom they can discuss important matters dropped by nearly one-third. The number of people who said they had no one they could discuss such matters with tripled to nearly 25%. The authors suspect that long work hours and the popularity of the Internet may contribute to the decline in close relationships.
The study also found that the percentage of people who talk about important matters only to family members increased from 57% to 80%. Those who depend solely on their spouse for these talks increased from 5% to 9%.
How Women's Friendships Are Different From Men'sIn general, women are better at maintaining friendships than men. Women "tend and befriend," says Shelley E. Taylor, PhD, a psychology professor at UCLA. They respond to stress by protecting and nurturing others ("tending"), and by seeking support from others ("befriending"). This pattern regulates the seeking, giving, and receipt of social support, Taylor says. It produces health benefits by reducing psychological and biological stress.
And Margaret Gibbs, PhD, a professor of psychology at Fairleigh Dickinson University, found that men and women relate to others differently throughout life.
"We found that women seemed more geared to empathy, while male friendships are more geared to companionship and altruism," she tells. "Male friendships are more about helping each other -- mending the lawn mower, that sort of thing. Women's friendships tend to have a more emotional content -- listening to friends' stories and coming up with helpful solutions."
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Feb 25, 2009

what can you do to get closer on dating?

It can be awkward to reach for a hand, or move in for a kiss, if you haven't made any physical contact at all yet. Short of doing the old yawn-and-stretch move, what can you do to get closer?
Try one of these (non-cliché) moves.

Practice Makes Perfect
Touching gets easier the more you do it, so practice with low-key, casual contact. Touch someone when you're making a point, rest your hand on an arm in sympathy, or lightly bump a back to emphasize a joke. By casually breaking the physical barrier in conversation, you make it easier to make a romantic move later.

Start Early
Another option is to make a big move early to break the tension and make your interest known right from the start. Holly, 31, tells the story of her first date with her now-husband. "He just went ahead and kissed me at the beginning of the date," she says. "It eliminated all the first-date jitters and we went on to have a great time, and were very cozy, the rest of the date."

Just Be Polite
Guys can rely on manners to make contact in a non-threatening way. Help your date out the car, help her out of her coat, or lightly touch her back to usher her through an open door. And, ladies, don't wait for him to make such a move. You can always reach for his arm when you're walking.

Close the Space
If you're already sitting or standing close together, it creates less of the terrifying space you need to cross to touch each other. Try to sit next to each other - not across - at dinner. Or speak lower, inviting your date to move in to hear you.

Get Active
Still too nervous to make a move? Try picking a date activity that ensures you get cozy. Invite your date to come over and make dinner together (especially good if you have a tiny kitchen!). Or make a date to go dancing, rock climbing or ice skating. Anything that gives you an excuse to put your hands on each other.
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How to Prevent an Office Affair

The long days, the late nights, the water cooler banter and intimate business trips.
Is it any wonder that when a guy strays, it's more likely to happen with a co-worker? According to one poll, 62 percent of men who admitted to an affair said it happened with someone from work.
Here's how to prevent becoming one of those statistics.

Fidelity Fix #1: Shore up your friendship.
"The best way to ensure your marriage," says Scott Stanley, Ph.D., coauthor of Fighting for Your Marriage, "is to maintain your friendship. A lot of times, what men miss most is the time they spend just hanging out with their wives. That's why so many affairs begin as friendships -- it's that intimacy a man is looking for."

Fidelity Fix #2: Make it your business.
Ask about his job and stay up-to-speed on specifics. Don't ask a generic, disinterested version of "how was your day?" and expect to hear more than "fine" as a response. The more knowledgeable you are with the major office players and the latest company gossip, the less likely he'll need to confide in a knowing co-worker. As a bonus, you'll also be more likely to suspect when a late-night or long business trip is less than legitimate.

Fidelity Fix #3: Be visible.
Join him at the corporate parties, after-work happy hours and the company softball game. Any potential rivals will find it harder to undermine your relationship once they've socialized with you. It's also harder for you guy to insist your relationship is in shambles if they see you arm and arm at the annual picnic.

Fidelity Fix #4: Know his life.
According to a Glamour magazine poll, 12 percent of guys tempted to cheat ultimately kept it in their pants because he was sure you'd find out. Stay in the loop when it comes to his life. No need to get controlling about it, but have a general idea of his whereabouts and who he spends his time with.

Fidelity Fix #5: Keep ties during trips.
Men are more likely to stray when they're outside their usual surroundings, have access to an anonymous partner and know it's less likely that you'll ever find out about it. This makes business trips an ideal time for a tryst. Keep him focused on you by regularly touching base while he's away as a reminder of his commitment.
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Feb 24, 2009

VALENTINE'S DAY SURVEY--What Do Men And Women Really Think About V-Day?

--Do you expect to have sex because it's Valentine's Day?
Women:Yes 43.1%
No 56.9%
Men:Yes 50.1 %
No 49.9%
--Who is supposed to plan Valentine's Day?
Women:The guy 30.3%
The girl 1.6%
A couple should plan it together 68.1%
Men:The guy 56.9%
The girl 4.5%
A couple should plan it together 38.6%
--Who is supposed to pay for Valentine's Day?
Women:The guy 40.3%
The girl .4%
A couple should split the costs 24.8%
Whoever planned the night 34.4%
Men:The guy 71.7%
The girl .9%
A couple should split the costs 11.1%
Whoever planned the night 16.3%
--Not having a date on Valentine's Day:
Women:It's horrible 20.7%
It doesn't matter at all 79.3%
Men:It's horrible 21.9%
It doesn't matter at all 78.1%
--Going on a blind date on Valentine's Day:
Women:Sure, why not 38.4%
No way 61.6%
Men:Sure, why not 46.2%
No way 53.8%
--Having a first date on Valentine's Day:
Women:Cheesy 61.7%
Romantic 38.3%
Men:Cheesy 62.6%
Romantic 37.4%
--Getting engaged on Valentine's Day:
Women:Cheesy 60.8%
Romantic 39.2%
Men:Cheesy 63.7%
Romantic 36.3%
--Have you ever forgotten Valentine's Day?
Women:Yes 24.5%
No 75.5%
Men:Yes 29.0%
No 71.0%
--Saying "I love you" for the first time on Valentine's Day:
Women:Cheesy 63.4%
Romantic 36.6%
Men:Cheesy 64.1%
Romantic 35.9%
--Your relationship is almost over.
You break up:
Women:Before Valentine's Day 75.3%
After Valentine's Day 24.7%
Men:Before Valentine's Day 70.7%
After Valentine's Day 29.3%
--How important is it to get a gift on Valentine's Day?
Women:If he/she forgets--it's over 15.0%
It's not important at all 85.0%
Men:If he/she forgets--it's over 14.4%
It's not important at all 85.6%
--How much money are you spending on a Valentine's day gift?
Women:$25 or less 48.9%
$25-$50 26.2%
$51-$74 9.9%
$75 and up 8.0%
I'm not--he/she is supposed to spend money on me 7.0%
Men:$25 or less 24.2%
$25-$50 33.6%
$51-$74 16.3%
$75 and up 22.9%
I'm not--he/she is supposed to spend money on me 3.0%
--How much should your partner spend on a Valentine's Day gift?
Women:$25 or less 31.0%
$25-$50 21.8%$51-$74 7.9%
$75 and up 8.0%
He/she doesn't need to get me a gift 31.3%
Men:$25 or less 28.4%
$25-$50 19.6%$51-$74 7.4%
$75 and up 4.1%
He/she doesn't need to get me a gift 40.5%
--Which best describes how you feel about V-Day?
Women:Ick! It's a Hallmark holiday 45.3%
Love it! It's another excuse to show I care 54.7%
Men:Ick! It's a Hallmark holiday 61.9%
Love it! It's another excuse to show I care 38.1%
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9 Sexy Bedroom Makeovers

If your boudoir looks anything like ours, your bed sits amid cluttered nightstands, teetering stacks of books, overflowing laundry baskets, and countless pairs of shoes. As a room that's meant to inspire sultry pillow talk and wild abandon, it's a total joke.
That's why we enlisted psychologists, decorators, and even a randy culinary whiz to help us create the perfect booty chamber: one that looks harmless enough to the unsuspecting eye but is so sexually charged you won't be able to hang out in it without feeling the urge to strip naked and growl like Eartha Kitt.
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"One of the easiest ways to change your environment is with sound," says Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D., sex therapist and director of the Buehler Institute in Irvine, California.
"Customize your playlist so the genre matches the mood you're in -- and the music builds to the mood you want to reach." For example, start with the soft sound of Band of Horses, shift into the sexy groove of Calexico, and graduate to the steady, pulsing rhythms of Bjork or Portishead.
8.
A recent study in the Scandinavian Journal of Psychology found that women perform better on creative tasks when in the company of plants.
Choose classically foxy flora like roses, which emit a mood-enhancing chemical called phenylethylamine, or PEA. Or, more creatively, surround yourself with lavender and lily of the valley, whose sweet fragrances, according to the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation, help increase arousal in men.
7.
You don't need an expert to tell you that action on the tube can inspire real-world raunch, but Patricia Covalt, Ph.D., author of What Smart Couples Know, is happy to do so anyway. She suggests racy non-porn; we like Y tu mamá también or 9 1/2 Weeks.
Open to female-focused erotica? Heat up your DVD player with Chemistry, by feminist author and sex educator Tristan Taormino.
6.
When selecting duvets, pillows, and throws for steamy sex scenes, Jenny Oman, a set decorator for Showtime's sizzling series The Tudors (yes, the one starring Jonathan "Too Hot to Be Human" Rhys Myers), mixes in posh materials like velvet and satin.
"Light-enhancing sheens and deep, rich colors like dark crimsons and pinks feel sensual and luxurious," she says. And get this: Less is surprisingly more when it comes to thread count. Designer Anki Spets, founder of Area linens, says a 200 to 400 thread count in high-quality cotton is ideal (anything higher and you'll be covered in sweat, since tighter weaves decrease much-needed breathability).
5.
A 2007 study by the University of Minnesota found that high ceilings prompt more inventive thinking, and low ceilings help you focus on details.
If your partner is too busy getting kinky to pay attention to your love button, paint your ceiling a few shades darker than your walls to make it seem lower. If your guy seldom strays beyond missionary, paint it several shades lighter, like primrose to complement burgundy walls.
4.
Bright light is so unsexy it would make Shakira hide under the sheets. Covalt suggests easy-to-install dimmers for flattering, fuss-free lighting. And interior designer Robert Verdi, whose clients include Eva Longoria and Mariska Hargitay, says colored light bulbs are a bright idea.
Pink ones soften the room and add a rosy glow to bare skin, while amber makes your body look sun-kissed. Margaret Walch, director of the Color Association of the United States, agrees: "Pink has calming effects, while amber increases arousal."
3.
Propping up a mirror next to the bed can make you feel as sophisticated as a contestant on Charm School. For a subtler visual thrill, cluster big, sturdy candles on the floor to create shadows, Oman says.
And make those flames citrus-scented: The Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation reports that a whiff of orange can increase penile blood flow by 20 percent.
2.
"If you want a lot of action, you want orange on the walls too," Walch says. The energizing shade blends the sexiest aspects of red and yellow. Physiologically, red is a stimulant -- but its psychological effects can include irritability. Mix it with sunny yellow, however, and you'll feel uplifted.
Verdi suggests deep orange paint to keep the room sultry, not seventies. If an entirely orange room seems overwhelming, try painting the color as an accent on just one wall -- behind your bed, for instance -- or on another focal point in the room.
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Stoke intimacy with art that reminds you what a horny couple you are. Verdi suggests blowing up tasteful photos of cozy moments -- or even having them professionally converted into prints .
Souvenirs like the leaf you saved from a romp in the woods look artsy when popped in a frame.
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Feb 23, 2009

Create Feng Shui for the Bathroom

More than a functional space, with Feng Shui principles, your bathroom can be a sanctuary of escape and rejuvenation. Feng Shui balances energy with color, light and reflection to create a bathroom space that promotes good health and good fortune. Your bathroom should mainly reflect yin qualities of peace and seclusion.

Step1-- Introduce soft, forest-green towels, soaps, shower curtains and decorative accessories. Most bathrooms are painted white or other light shades. Balance this inherent extreme of light with greens in shades of the woods.

Step2-- Keep the lid down to lock in energy. According to Feng Shui principles, an open toilet invites wealth and and luck to be flushed away. If your bathroom is in the southeast quadrant of your home, the sector of luck and prosperity, take care. Always keep the door and the toilet lid closed when not in use.

Step3 --Place odd numbers of green plants in your bathroom. Odd numbers are lucky in Feng Shui. A peace lily gently ionizes any space it occupies. Three of these plants are fortunate additions. If your bathroom is dark or damp, hang ferns, which thrive in darker, humid environments.

Step4 --Reflect negative energy. If you have a bathroom near the entrance of your home or within view of the kitchen, always keep the door closed. Situate a mirror near the entryway or kitchen to reflect away negative influences. A bathroom near an entrance to your home indicates lost opportunities. Bathrooms close to kitchens can be associated with health issues.

Step5-- Fix faucet drips. Dripping water will flow away the "shui" (which is also slang for "money") in Feng Shui. Leaky faucets trickle your energy and money down the drain.
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How to memorialize a loved one

Losing a loved one to death is painful. They take a part of our lives with them that can never be filled by anyone or anything else. That is why we often look for ways to preserve their memory or keep them in mind long after the funeral is over.

To hold on to the legacy of someone who is deceased, here are a few ideas for cherishing their memories. You may be able to come up with variations of these ideas or something different altogether, but the main idea is to remember those who have gone before:

1. Fill a small scrapbook or photo album for just that person. In addition to family memorabilia in large, collective albums, set apart a small book as a tribute to the deceased loved one. It may include photographs, drawings, speeches, poems, or other artifacts created by or for the deceased relative. Organize them in chronological order to let readers review the person's entire life in pictures. You can even add captions to identify other people in the photos, dates, or settings.

2. Set aside a room's corner or nook to commemorate the person's life. A favorite figurine, plaque, award, or trophy can be placed on the mantel alongside a framed photo surrounded by favorite floral arrangements. Or get a multi-photo tri-fold frame and fill it with photos from all stages of the person's life. An oft-worn cap or a walking cane can offer simple but precious memories of the departed one, as can a favorite magazine or collector’s items setting nearby.

3. Fill a box or chest of special memories from the person's life. Books, letters, diaries, pictures, plaques, or other things that held meaning for the deceased loved one. You can add things that the person indirectly enjoyed as well, like recipes, restaurant menus, or ticket stubs. Whether they fill a shoebox or a trunk, you will enjoy a stroll down memory lane when you open it and browse the wealth of thoughts and feelings that accompany you.

4. Make a donation in the relative's name. Choose a charity or organization that the person thought highly of or supported when alive. Then make a one-time or annual contribution in memory of your family member. You may want to enclose a short note to explain how your relative appreciated this organization and mention that you will continue to wish them well or help as you can when special needs arise.

5. Support causes that your loved one believed in. Even if you can't directly mention your family member or friend by name, when you get involved, you will help to carry on your loved one's interests and values. Every time you make a donation of time or money, you will be helping to keep your loved one's memory alive and share a special offering of your resources that would make the departed one feel good.

Valuing our loved ones after their departure helps to preserve memories, build family legacies, and connect one generation to another.
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Parenting tips: is your grown son ready for marriage?

You’ve taught him to walk, talk, even drive a car and do basic algebra. But nothing prepares us as parents for the day our son is ready to make the ultimate commitment and say, “I do.” The natural reaction may be to wonder how a young man who recently could not commit to one hairstyle could possibly understand the long-term obligation of marriage? This is the time we must put away our inclinations as parents to look at our own emotional tug-of-war and address the actual issues of the commitment to a long-term relationship, and this should be done before having any discussion with your son on his decision.

Before discussing any concerns you have with your son and his prospective bride, it is a good idea to have a logical discussion with yourself. Address the areas of your concerns one by one, rather than all in one mixed bag of apprehension. For example, rather than to say he is unorganized, has no concept of punctuality, has no experience with a prior serious relationship, etc., begin with item number one, his bad organization habits. Write each issue down and after looking over the list, number them in order of priority. You may be surprised to find that most of the issues that concerned you must don’t rank at the top of the priority list at all!

Issues that more directly apply to whether your son is ready for marriage include job security, financial planning and the ability to make adjustments to these issues so that they include consideration for two people rather than one. If you already have an understanding of where your son is regarding these areas then narrow any concerns you might have so that they directly address these details without automatically putting a negative spin on things. It may well be that your son has already given full consideration to these concerns and taken appropriate action to improve upon them.

Another important concern includes where your son stands on establishing his credit. His new future will likely include issues such as buying a home and perhaps having children. A stable credit history will make such goals much easier to accomplish.

Other issues to consider include:
Does his job require extensive travel, and if so have he and his partner fully discussed how to handle that?
If he and/or his partner have incurred debt, do they have a manageable plan for reducing it?
Does your son have a realistic understanding that all major life decisions will now require consideration for himself and his spouse?
Does he and/or his partner have future career plans that will likely require relocation, commuting, or other major life adjustments?
Depending upon the type of wedding, has he adequately prepared for the expenses involved, which can be excessive?
Have health, automobile and life insurance issues been addressed? Preparation of insurance coverage can prevent catastrophic financial burdens.

Lastly, ask your son if he has any concerns that you can offer advice or assistance with. It is most likely that he has given his future a great deal of thought and has compiled his own list of issues to address. Ask him to name one area that he feels may need his attention. Having done so, give him the opportunity to address that issue for himself with the offer to assist if he needs it. After all, he will soon be making all of these decisions for himself.
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Tips to keeping long distance family relationships

Most parents would like their children to grow up feeling close to their grandparents, aunts and uncles. Yet, today, many children live far from these relatives. How can a parent help bridge the gap of distance to keep relationships close?

Keep the information flowing.
Take lots of pictures. Kids grow and change so fast, so taking lots of photos is important. As a pack of pictures comes back from the developers, take out those you want to keep for yourself and then divide the others up for those long distance relatives. Even one photo helps keep relatives familiar with the looks and personality of your children.
Write family newsletters. Many families wait until Christmas to send out a family newsletter, when people are bogged down in other commitments. Instead do quarterly newsletters including all sorts of family anecdotes. If your children are old enough, let them contribute ideas - you will often be surprised by what your kids think is important enough to share.

Get Children Involved in Gift Giving
Relationships with long-distance relatives are often about gift receiving, not gift giving. Help your kids choose or make gifts for those far-away family members. Your child will feel closer to relatives when time and effort have gone into giving a gift. Also, gift giving events are great times to share family stories so your child comes to know more about the likes and dislikes of each family member. And don't overlook "just because" gifts, given just because the child has been thinking about Aunt Kathy or just because the child made a knick-knack that would look perfect on Grandma's shelf. Often these unexpected gifts become the most precious.
Also, don't neglect thank-you cards. Encourage your child to go beyond the standard "thank you for the sweater, it was appreciated" line. Thank you cards are a great time to share moments from the child's life. Did he wear the sweater to his school Christmas party? Even little tidbits of information can help keep relatives feeling involved.

The Key is Contact
Whether though phone calls, letters or email, keep the flow of information frequent. Remember that even trivial things are news to grandma and grandpa. And before any gift-receiving holiday, drop relatives a note including sizes and new favorites for your children. Nothing makes a gift-giver seem more out of touch than an ill-fitting or inappropriate gift.

Keeping long-distance families close and connected takes work and determination but the rewards last a lifetime.
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Feb 22, 2009

What Type of a Kisser Are You?

As we all know, there are many types of kiss. Here are some of them, who is the type that uses them and what they mean:

The French kiss - passion. Lasts for ever. Involves all parts of the mouth and excites the rest of the body. The point of this kiss is a “meeting” between the two tongues. The French kiss is a kind of “trespassing” to one’s privacy and can sometimes stimulate a rejection especially if the partner is the shy/afraid/close type.
The overall kiss - Starts with the mouth, goes to the cheeks, the nose, the forehead and sometimes further.
The woodpecker kiss - The name says it all. Very economic, quick and sometimes even irritating.
The polite kiss - Based on the woodpecker kiss but with more hesitation in it: should I kiss on the “given” cheek or should i just make a low light sound of kiss next to the ear?
The aunty kiss - Suction a part of someone’s cheek into a foreign mouth while leaving some lipstick on it.
The closed eyes kiss - usually by very romantic people that like to fantasies. While they close the eyes, they get the opportunity to concentrate on their fantasy, as they do not want it to be ruined by a nose hair sticking out of the partner’s nose, god forbid.
The opened eyes kiss - those people are always on a “watch”. Got to be in control. Connected to reality. Can not and would not let this experience swap them away. There is no fear on “crashing down” as they never left the ground. Those people and the suspicious, careful controlled type. The sterilized kiss - people who kiss like that are to sterile for this “passion” act. For them, a kiss must be clean and descent. Very polite and probably…boring.
The total kiss - Completely in it. They give it all. Love maniacs. They will never limit their kiss to one specific part of the body.
The locked lips kiss - Signalizing some kind of fear, shyness or just “I don’t feel like it really”. It is like talking to someone behind a door with a chain.
The vacuum kiss - A passion kiss that might hurt. It is a kiss the kind of “arguing” with the partner - my place or yours? It is like the kisser is trying to swallow the partner - not so much for love as for lust.


So..What type of kisser are you?
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Approaching A Tall Woman

Tall men are often envied and admired by other men who are not as vertically blessed. Athletics probably came easier to them in their youth, and as they aged their height more than likely influenced their professional success to a certain degree.

Tallness in women, however, is an entirely different story. Instead of other women envying their height, tall women often struggle with feeling freakish and out of place, especially while growing up (no pun intended). While tall women might find their niche as professional athletes or supermodels, extreme height in women is often seen as bizarre and something to gawk at.

Regardless of what society says about how women should look, there are decided advantages to approaching a tall woman. Being with a tall woman says a lot about a man, especially if he happens to be shorter then her. Just about any guy, in describing the perfect woman, would describe one who is shorter as it makes him feel more masculine. If a man goes against this urge, then he is essentially declaring that he does not care about societal norms. This statement screams confidence and maturity, which will have quite a few people taking notice not only of your striking partner, but of you as well.

When approaching a tall woman, there are certain things you should keep in mind, and we've got them right here.

Don't dismiss her based on her height
Most men take it for granted that tall women are only interested in men who are taller than they are. This follows the stereotype that men must be taller than their partners in order to appear ordinary. Men often rationalize that tall women must already feel out of place and therefore wouldn't want to draw more attention to themselves by dating a shorter man. That philosophy makes approaching tall women a bit easier: since they are less likely to be hit on than other women, you have a better chance of being successful if you summon the courage to make your move.

Anticipate defensiveness
Tall women often build walls around themselves. Forged out of their general insecurity toward their appearance while growing up, tall women often adopt a philosophy that a good defense is a good offense. In other words, she will more than likely appear touchy and aggressive while also attempting to keep up the image that she does not care what others think of her. When approaching a tall woman, do not be frightened by this hard and intimidating outer shell; it’s all smoke and mirrors. If you appear confident and unfazed by the stares coming your way, she will become more at ease. As she becomes relaxed and secure around you, her softer side will more than likely emerge.

Don't talk about her size
It is good to remember that a tall woman has probably been tall for her age at all stages of her life. It was more than likely the topic of numerous conversations because it was the most obvious attribute about her. “Wow, is it difficult finding clothes?” “How tall is your boyfriend?” “Did you play basketball/volleyball?” Being taller than all the boys has probably made her feel un-feminine and self-conscious. Since her height is such an evident point, catch her off guard by not mentioning it when approaching a tall woman. By complimenting her on her intelligence or sense of humor, you will appear refreshing, unique and you'll be someone she will remember for all the right reasons.

Compliment her legs
Of course, there is one obvious amendment to the rule about not talking about her height: When approaching a tall woman, compliment her on one of her best physical attributes by declaring how sexy her legs are. Why are most models taller than average women? Because fashion designers and advertising experts alike know that tall women have limbs that go on forever, and that they look fantastic in (and out of) clothing. Those few extra inches only make her shapely legs that much more appealing. Go ahead and appreciate what she was blessed with, and make sure she knows just how much you admire them.

look up, way up
If you've ever glanced at a tabloid photo of some supermodel with her much-shorter boyfriend and wondered what that must be like, then remember to give the everyday tall woman a chance. She may not have the same smoking body or outrageous sex appeal as Gisele or Adriana, but what she lacks in that department she will more than make up for in personality and a healthy appetite.
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