Relationship Psychology 101

There is a rhyme and a reason to every relationship. Why some relationships work and some do not can be clearly explained by a clinical psychologist. Of course, most people don't have a clinic researcher with a degree in relationship psychology on speed dial, so most times were left in the dark and forced to evaluate ourselves the reasons why a relationship ended when you didn't see it coming or to answer tough questions about a relationship issue. However, researching psychology websites online can help you get a clearer idea of the why's and how's of relationships.

Advice #1: Me, Me, Me
When you first start a relationship, it is all about getting to know the person; their likes, dislikes, favorite foods and the places that they have traveled. You are not ready for them (nor are they to you) to divulge any in-depth details about their past relationships or family issues. This can certainly scare prospective relationships away. It also extremely important to keep your partner engaged in conversation. Make sure it is not one-sided where you are constantly talking about yourself (or vice versa). Taking the "me" approach is a good indicator that will be what a long-term relationship would be like.

Advice #2: Can You Forgive a Cheater?
When you are confronted with a problem of your spouse or significant other cheating on you, you have to answer some very difficult questions and in doing that you will discover a lot about yourself. If you feel like the relationship is worth saving and your partner is truly apologetic and willing to go to counseling, you should be open to the possibility. This does not mean, however that he/she has not seriously damaged the relationship. They need to suffer the ramifications and the ramifications are yours to set. Give yourself time to decide if you are willing to trust them again and give your relationship another try.

Advice #3: Stay Away from Toxic Relationships
Relationship psychology says that many people stay in a relationship because there is a lot of passion in it. While passion is an important part in any relationship, it cannot be the substance of a partnership. If you take out the passion and realize that there is nothing else to the relationship, then you are in it for the wrong reasons and should get out of the relationship before it goes any farther. Finding that spark with someone both physically and intellectually is a good indicator that your relationship will stand the tests of time.