1--The major difference between extroverts and introverts is that whereas extroverts thrive on being around others, introverts need time to be alone, to retreat into themselves and gain energy back. Social events supply extroverts with energy; such events drain an introvert's energy. Because of this, the most important thing that you can do for an introvert is to give them space when they need it. Do not take it personally. If they do not want to spend time with you sometimes, it is probably not because they don't like you, but rather because they just like being alone sometimes. Don't take it the wrong way: not everyone is as outgoing as you!
2--Take the time to get to know your introvert. Introverts naturally tend to be more reserved. They may even come across as aloof an uncaring. But that does not mean that they are! Many introverts are really cool people- but you have to take the time to pull them out of their shells so you can discover more about them.
3--Give the introvert time to respond to questions. Whereas extroverts "think out loud", introverts ponder the questions silently before coming up with an answer. If you ask an introvert questions but never give them adequate time to respond, they will eventually clam up and possibly not even respond to you at all.
4--Once an introvert is talking, don't interrupt them. While others might see such interruptions as normal, introverts often see it as frustrating and rude. Interrupting can break their concentration. You don't get them talking so often- so when you do, give them a chance to say what they've been thinking about!
5--When inviting the introvert to do something, give them a way out. Introverts don't always want to be out doing things, but it can be very difficult when they are expected to. Saying no, even though they want to, can make them feel guilty.
6--If an important decision needs to be made, tell the introvert to think about it and get back to you at a later time. The bigger the decision, the more time you should plan on giving them.
7--Don't get worried if you see the introvert staring off into space. Chances are, he or she is lost in thought.
8--When interacting with an introvert don't jump to conclusions. Just because they are being quiet doesn't mean that there's anything wrong.
9--Recognize that an introvert might need down time after a social outing. Since social events drain energy, introverts can need time to recoup after such events.
10--Appreciate your introvert for who they are. Don't try to sculpt them into who you think they ought to be. Accept that they just aren't outgoing, nor should they have to be.
- Have patience with introverts.
- Respect their differences.
- Listen and pay attention when an introvert talks.
- Give introverts plenty of personal space.
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